Rochelle Rubin

October 26, 2016

Rochelle Rubin

My mom, Rochelle Rubin, died on October 22, 2016. Nobody expected this outcome, for she had survived killer events in 2002 and 2011, respectively. When miracles happen repeatedly, we expect them always. Alas, there are rules, and one of them says no one lives forever. We doubted that rule from time to time with Rochelle Rubin but … well … anyway.

My mom spent an extraordinary 80 years here on this little rock, floating through space. She left a legacy, through her family and her many friends, through her many business relationships, and with her body of work as an interior designer across North America. Rochelle was extremely talented, and blessed with the opportunity to bring pleasure to others through her work.

My mom had wonderful relationships with her children and grandchildren. But it was her relationship with the love of her life, Irwin Sattinger, that made her really light up. They gave one another so much, and truly adored each other. Even in her last few days she was recounting to her caregivers, like a schoolgirl, tidbits about her boyfriend.

Rochelle Rubin lived fully and optimistically, especially during the 14 borrowed years. We miss her dearly already, but we know that she died without regrets, ready for a new journey.

We will bury Rochelle on Thursday, October 27, in a private service. Family and friends will gather to celebrate her life at 4:00 p.m. on Thursday at The Lodge at Ventana Canyon, 6200 N. Club House Lane in Tucson.

I will get back to my writing in the coming days. I miss it, but I take comfort in the fact that at least one reader—Rochelle—enjoyed the break. My mom worried always that my rantings must be bad for business. “Can’t you tone it down,” she’d ask, plaintively, and not because she disagreed with what I had to say, or because she thought I would listen to her.

Somewhere, wherever good souls go, Rochelle Rubin is smiling. She knows she lived well, and that she will not be forgotten. She’s also sure in her own mind that her departure provided all of you with a respite, and that her illness and passing resulted in my not offending anyone who might need legal services, for at least a little while. Godspeed Mom!

Rochelle Rubin

22 Responses to Rochelle Rubin

  • Excellent tribute to Rochelle, Mark. You are a very very good writer. Rochelle was such a force to be reckoned with. She had a unique combination of right brain/left brain, ie creativity combined with functionality I should know. She did my house in Tucson several times. I liked and trusted her so much, I couldn’t stop and kept thinking of things to do, change, make better. She always came through. I can still see her in front of a large blueprint, figuring out where things should go and the next minute, picking up a beautiful piece of fabric and saying “This just came in. What can we do with it in your house.” Nothing daunted her. A wall could always be moved, a dining room enlarged from a nook to banquet-size, closets turned into bathrooms. She could fix, re-create, re-build anything. Pretty amazing. I loved working with her and working with her and working with her. She will be sorely missed by this client. And beside the work, she was always so vivacious, so sweet, so service-oriented and always so fashionable. Her nails painted, her hair done in the latest style, high boots, colorful stockings. A sight to behold. She really was a big part of the last 16 years I’ve spent in Tucson.

    • Barbara,

      Thanks for the kind words about Rochelle. You nailed her totally. She adored you too, by the way, and on behalf of my sisters, we appreciate your “addiction.”


      PS Thanks for the writing compliment. From you, it’s a really big deal.

  • Mark, I feel I am getting to know your mother through your posts, which I miss…by the way. I do wish I had the opportunity to meet her. Again. My condolences for the hole in your heart.

  • Moms know us first and love us best. I hope you find peace in the love and memories of your dearest mother.

  • I’ll be thinking of you today, especially, and hope that you will be surrounded by the love and kindness friends and family.

  • Mark,
    Your tribute to your mom was straight from the heart and I believe she IS immensely proud of the man you are. I pray that you will be comforted by all those sweet memories of her in the days to come. Blessings to you and yours…

    • Thanks so much, Dick, and thanks for showing up. My mom and I, and you and so many others, get the notion of showing up. It’s usually pretty easy, and it makes such a difference. Now that RR is gone, I hope I will be able to step up, per our earlier conversation.

  • Mark, what a wonderful tribute to your mother. I can tell what a close relationship you had from your words. Wayne and I send our condolences.

  • I love the idea of the apple and the tree. I see it in you and Rochelle and you and Cate. Class, a way with words, love of family and food – you have all that and more. That you all had the true connection across the generations….that is everything. Hold tight, keep the traditions going (those Sunday dinners), and remember Rochelle’s greatest tribute is displayed in the loves of her live – Mark, Cate, Irwin, Steven, et. al.

  • Mark, So sorry to hear about your Mom’s death. Your words bring her to life for those who may not have known her well. A fitting tribute. I’m sorry I was unable to make the celebration of her life. Take care, Francie

  • Mark, I read and re-read this beautiful and heartfelt tribute to your amazing mother. I have known Irwin since I was barely out of college. The joy that your Mom brought into his life was so visible to everyone who knows him. Rochelle was truly a one of a kind woman, a trailblazer way ahead of her time. She leaves a legacy of family and friends to carry on her memory and to learn from her how to cherish each and every moment that we have on earth.

  • I was very sorry to hear of Rochelle’s passing. Rochelle helped me a bit with my last 2 homes and we got to know each other a little. She was always exceptionally warm & kind..even loaning me her home in Sedona for a few days. Rochelle was very generous & inclusive to me & to many others.

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